Sexual health isn’t just about the absence of disease, it’s also about having a positive and respectful approach to sex and having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences as focused on in Sexual Health Week 2015.
Dr Lyndsey Myskow, who leads YourGP’s sexual health and gender clinic, gives tips on putting the pleasure back into sex. Dr Myskow has been a sex therapist for more than 30 years and is one of Scotland’s leading experts in the field. So who better for Informed Edinburgh to ask for the top five tips for a good sex life and help in putting the pleasure back into sex.
1. Be open and honest with your partner
Sex is an important part of a couple’s life, and whether it’s good or not good, or frequent or less so, we often feel embarrassed speaking about it – even with our partners.
The first thing you need to do is open up and chat about what you expect sexually from each other. If you don’t like the way your partner does something, or you don’t like a particular sexual position, be honest. It won’t just improve your sex life – it’ll improve your relationship too.
2. Understand each others’ needs – and compromise
When you and your partner both know what turns each other on in the bedroom, it’s safe to say you’re going to enjoy sex more. So make sure you ask them what they like and what they don’t like. But don’t forget to compromise – sex should never be about just one person getting everything they want.
3. Spend some quality time together
Trying to juggle your work with your personal life is hard enough, never mind having to think about sex too. But no matter how busy you are, it’s important to spend some quality alone time with your partner.
Whether it’s going for a romantic meal or going to the cinema, or simply getting out the house for a little while, these moments can reignite the spark and help turn your relationship around.
4. Try something new
This might be an obvious one, but when it comes to the bedroom, don’t be afraid to try new things. When couples are together for a long time, sex can understandably lose its sparkle, so set some time aside for experimentation.
This could be as simple as mixing up how, when or where you usually have sex, or something a little more adventurous like using sex toys or exploring your secret sexual fantasies.
5. Don’t ignore problems
Because people are often so embarrassed to talk about sex, a lot of potentially serious problems can get swept under the carpet. For example, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are just two common conditions that can affect people’s sex lives.
If you follow these five tips, YourGP is confident that you’ll improve your sex life and put the pleasure back into sex. Dr Myskow is an acknowledged authority in this field and has helped many people who have suffered from these conditions return to a fulfilling sex life.
YourGP knows that every relationship is different – and they know many relationships go through serious periods of stress or crisis. That’s why they offer individual and couple counselling at their private health practice in Edinburgh.
Dr Myskow takes a caring and conscientious approach to her work, and she has helped many people turn their relationships around and emerge stronger both as individuals and as a couple.
“One of the aspects of this part of my work that makes me especially pleased is when I have been able to help my patients become happy and confident,” she says.
“It is wonderful when patients are able to enjoy their sex life when they have previously been miserable and beset with sexual problems.”